Love, Virgins and Marriage

I have spent years in finding the true meaning of love and came up with nothing except that love doesn't exist at all. If the love existed, then it was only during the time of Romeo and Juliet, Ram and Sita, Mahadeva and Satidevi and other hypothetical characters. We even don't know whether such characters really existed or their existence has been mentioned just in religious papers for the sake of learning.

This is the 21^st century where more than love, other things count. These days couples fall in love for the sexual pleasure, after the gain of which their so-called love dies. Being a Nepali society, it is traditional. Even though these days, this society is slanting towards the modern Western culture, it is still not accepting the love relation between girls and boys openly. Has anyone found any parents accepting love relation of his son/daughter ? Yes, Nepali society is rooted with the traditional caste problem. The so called lower and upper caste exist here. Love and marriage is acceptable and permissible only within caste of same status.

Slightly and slightly, we are hearing news regarding intercaste marriage. Beside only one tenth of such intercaste marriage boast full support from their(especially boy's) parents. And couples going against the support of parents, who aim to succeed their love relation fall in miserable situation. Living life with your loved ones, despite having caste or religious problems, seems to be a bed full of roses, but practically appears to be a bed full of thorns.

The society has changed. Definition of love has changed. The young generation now feels love in units of sex. If you question ten unmarried girls in this society regarding their virginity, seven will answer they have already lost their virginity. And if you question ten unmarried boys in the same society regarding their virginity, three will answer they have lost their virginity. The figures above are rough, though it depicts where our society stands now. You can hardly get a virgin life partner. Yes, I am speaking right. This society has young boys and young girls young dying enough to break their virginity and once the same boys and girls become the aged lads and ladies ready for marriage, they are in search of the fresh virgins. Look the differences. They know they are not virgins, but looking for virgin life partners.

And then, there are some really innocent girls and boys who are a pure virgins and perhaps have never fallen in love before marriage. So they marry some partner and found that he/she has already lost his/her virginity, then the problem arises. Problems arise in such a destructive way that their married life gets exploited within the matter of seconds. Especially girls become the real victims here. May be, the bride and groom had some communication problem before marriage and the nightmare turns out to be a hell.

A Nepalese society in-fact has never ever accepted and allowed pre-marital sex. The young generation now has access to the western TV serials and films, and are largely influenced by the internet technology. Nepal has not officially declared the red light area, but places such as Thamel and Jhamsikhel are convincing to be declared as such. There are couples who mistake's infatuation as love and their love turns out to be a love turned sex turned breakup relation. And their ex's, y's, z's and so on are just a pile of numbers to be counted. And there are some couples who understand love as love, tries to transform love into marriage, fails and elopes. They are not far enough in a situation where they regret eloping. And there are some couples who reads novels, understand love as a happy factor, and leaves each others just to be happy for each other. And all apart from the above mentioned ones, there are couples who fall in love after marriage(arranged by their parents). Unexpected relationship turns out to be the fruitul and longest ones. And I remember the relationship of our very own ex-prince Paras and princess Himani. Arranged one but degraded to the most.

Finally, I find myself nowhere except wasting my 30 minutes to write this article. I find no conclusion. I find no LOVE, just pleasure....